You are the only one who needs to know.

[wolfpangs]

You asked for it and here it is: the secrets meme, back by popular demand. Share a secret, any kind of secret, whether it be silly or serious. Do it anonymously or not. IP logging is turned off and the only rule is that comments that explicitly name eljay members* are verboten.

Secrets are made to be found out with time.

*excluding your hostess

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I suspect someone of having a secret, but it doesn't mean I hate them. I get carried away with theories, but I do realize there's a person underneath. I also don't think you can forge friendships with a constructed personality, so I don't doubt everything. I still care; I'm just confused.

I could also be a paranoid tool.

That made zero sense!

[(Anonymous)]

Why should someone hold an internet friendship in higher regard than a real-life one, considering how much people misrepresent themselves online?

[(Anonymous)]

People can be fake with each other in real life, too.

[(Anonymous)]

Sure they can, but can they lie about so much as they can online? Even about things so mundane as their appearance? When you have personal interaction with someone, you can see all the little things that people just can't hide in person. You can't do that online. Whatever someone tell you online, you have to accept as fact until you're told otherwise.

[(Anonymous)]

Every situation is different.

[(Anonymous)]

Why should someone hold an internet friendship in higher regard than a real-life one, considering how much people misrepresent themselves online?

I'm not sure one should hold Internet friendship in "higher" regard, but I have been in the same situation and I don't understand why one would treat one's friends so callously without thinking "Hey, I'm being a real fucking dink" whether they're online friends or real life friends.

As far as I'm concerned, it's pretty sad to think everybody you know online is misrepresenting themselves, so it's okay to be a giant douche.

[(Anonymous)]

Often I don't comment on people's journals because I don't know what to say. Or I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing. I am reading, though, and I do care. About most of it, anyway.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't understand why one would treat one's friends so callously without thinking "Hey, I'm being a real fucking dink" whether they're online friends or real life friends.

You don't understand the mindset of a useless dink because you're a worthwhile person.

I suppose you'd have to be a person without much in the way of real value to anyone to really not care one way or the other how betrayal will affect a confidante.

[(Anonymous)]

This conversation is fucking awesome if you know what the betrayed confidence in question is. Viva morality!

[(Anonymous)]

I dislike several of my LJ friends, but I keep them on my friends list anyway. I'm not sure why.

[(Anonymous)]

Never said that. I do think it's sad to still be so hurt, weeks later, by something someone you never intended to meet in person did to you.

[(Anonymous)]

Then defriend them. What's the worst they can do to you?

[(Anonymous)]

It kind of hurts to be so open with people only to realize that some of them you hardly know at all, or you think you know them...

[(Anonymous)]

Hey, hope you remember that the next time you're stewing over something someone you never intended to meet in person does something trivial to you online.

But only a sad person (or persons) would obsess over something like that, right?

That's not the kind of anonymouse you are, is it?

[(Anonymous)]

FYI, I was honoring a real life friendship *over* an internet friendship. I'll give you 50 bucks if you can find me someone who wouldn't do the same.

[(Anonymous)]

Ha! Will you sign my slam book!? An anonymous X will do.

[(Anonymous)]

But only a sad person (or persons) would obsess over something like that, right?

Or someone who likes to be the center of controversy. Over and over again.

Hey, it's getting kind of stanky in here!

[(Anonymous)]

[(Anonymous)]

Regardless of of whether a friend is "real life" or online, I don't tell things they've told me in secret. We all have friends who don't like each other. It happens. There's no reason to be offended when one friend doesn't like another.

[(Anonymous)]

((Anonymous)) wrote on May 2nd, 2006 at 02:58 am, you're not meant to be on the internets. Unplug your keyboard and go back to stitching your "values" on Holly Hobby samplers, please.

Everyone knows that the best kind of real-life friendships are the ones based on reinforcing mutual insecurities, inadequacies and prejudices because they get to be watered with sweet, sweet validation. You have to work really hard to keep those ones because they can go bad really quickly and your bff might sell you out!

[(Anonymous)]

EW! Anonymize that shit! You are so defriended.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, pardon me for not being a douche.

[(Anonymous)]

And the name-calling begins!

[(Anonymous)]

I'm laughing like someone just said "titmouse" over here.

Hehehe, titmouse.

[griffin-mill.livejournal.com]

? I'm not the above comments (believe it or not, I...don't really care), but you did introduce this subject, yes? "Over and over again"?